Lesson 23-25 Judgement
It looks like I got a little behind. Interesting how quickly that happens. I'm not sure if some of these questions are literally meant to be answered, but I'm going to anyway...
23 Judging Judgement:
Why shouldn't we form opinions and evaluations by using our discernment?
We certainly should.
How is it that judgment has been so harshly judged?
I believe healthy judgement is acknowledging moment to moment what our opinions and evaluations are based on the current evidence. Judgement gets skewed when we make broad, sweeping judgements without allowing new evidence to filter in.
How does judging serve us well in creating the lives we want… and how and when does it NOT?
Based on my above definition (which I think is pretty stellar), judgement serves us when we're using it in a healthy way; it doesn't serve us when we're not allowing new information in.
24 Nailing It!
This is my favorite title so far.
I don't usually include the quotes from the lessons in my blog, but I have been thinking about this EXACT concept for weeks now...
"I suppose it is tempting, if the only tool you have is a hammer,
to treat everything as if it were a nail."
Abraham Maslow
In your own life, have you had eye-opening realizations were you subsequently realized something you'd judged to have had a greater, more expansive truth than you first realized?
Almost all the time. I have this all the time in traffic, when I'm so pissed at what another person is doing, and then I see it from their perspective. I also often will see how something has happened ultimately for the best, but at the time it was hard and suffering.
25 Budget your time
Spend some time thinking about how you might be judging yourself and how that might be something that's secretly holding you back.
On Saturday a friend texted me to go out with her where she was meeting two men- one she knew and his friend. The whole way there and after arrival, I had a tape playing in my head that this friend was going to be disappointed when I showed up because I would definitely not be his type, and neither of them would want to interact with me and I would be downcast and and and and and and. I have no idea his disappointment level; I know my friend and myself were not seeing this as a date, and I have no idea if the men were. Regardless, I immediately took myself out of the running and created this whole scene of how I'd be rejected and, oh my god! All that time and energy taken away from time I could have been enjoying myself. Which I did, once I got over all that shit in my head.
Are you maintaining a "Truth" about your Financial Life that could be greatly softened with compassion?
Oh, geez. What "truths" do I hold about my finances? In an earlier week, I discussed the not feeling worthy part. I judge the times when it feels like I spend a lot, like this weekend. I judge that if I don't have savings, that means I'm a failure. Even just typing and knowing someone else could read this, I didn't want to admit that I don't have savings, because I feel like I'll be judged by others. It seems I'm stuck here. Something to think more on.
Are you so busy judging yourself and others that you have no time for love and appreciation?
Well, no. I do love and appreciate also. The judgement tapes are pretty well under the surface, so it takes questions like these for me to realize they're playing at all. But, I do love and appreciate. Myself and others. I just also judge.
23 Judging Judgement:
Why shouldn't we form opinions and evaluations by using our discernment?
We certainly should.
How is it that judgment has been so harshly judged?
I believe healthy judgement is acknowledging moment to moment what our opinions and evaluations are based on the current evidence. Judgement gets skewed when we make broad, sweeping judgements without allowing new evidence to filter in.
How does judging serve us well in creating the lives we want… and how and when does it NOT?
Based on my above definition (which I think is pretty stellar), judgement serves us when we're using it in a healthy way; it doesn't serve us when we're not allowing new information in.
24 Nailing It!
This is my favorite title so far.
I don't usually include the quotes from the lessons in my blog, but I have been thinking about this EXACT concept for weeks now...
"I suppose it is tempting, if the only tool you have is a hammer,
to treat everything as if it were a nail."
Abraham Maslow
In your own life, have you had eye-opening realizations were you subsequently realized something you'd judged to have had a greater, more expansive truth than you first realized?
Almost all the time. I have this all the time in traffic, when I'm so pissed at what another person is doing, and then I see it from their perspective. I also often will see how something has happened ultimately for the best, but at the time it was hard and suffering.
25 Budget your time
Spend some time thinking about how you might be judging yourself and how that might be something that's secretly holding you back.
On Saturday a friend texted me to go out with her where she was meeting two men- one she knew and his friend. The whole way there and after arrival, I had a tape playing in my head that this friend was going to be disappointed when I showed up because I would definitely not be his type, and neither of them would want to interact with me and I would be downcast and and and and and and. I have no idea his disappointment level; I know my friend and myself were not seeing this as a date, and I have no idea if the men were. Regardless, I immediately took myself out of the running and created this whole scene of how I'd be rejected and, oh my god! All that time and energy taken away from time I could have been enjoying myself. Which I did, once I got over all that shit in my head.
Are you maintaining a "Truth" about your Financial Life that could be greatly softened with compassion?
Oh, geez. What "truths" do I hold about my finances? In an earlier week, I discussed the not feeling worthy part. I judge the times when it feels like I spend a lot, like this weekend. I judge that if I don't have savings, that means I'm a failure. Even just typing and knowing someone else could read this, I didn't want to admit that I don't have savings, because I feel like I'll be judged by others. It seems I'm stuck here. Something to think more on.
Are you so busy judging yourself and others that you have no time for love and appreciation?
Well, no. I do love and appreciate also. The judgement tapes are pretty well under the surface, so it takes questions like these for me to realize they're playing at all. But, I do love and appreciate. Myself and others. I just also judge.
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