Lesson 110: Narrower is Easier
Let me be honest:
I just reviewed the last five lessons all at once. I have done this once or twice in this course, but I am not taking the time to answer each question. I'm going to summarize my answers here.
The reason for this is I'M GOING TO SPAIN. Tomorrow. Wow.
Therefore, I have been focused on other things. I have been focused on one of my financial dreams or goals that is actually coming to fruition.
When I was 14 or 15 I had a friend who went to Spain as part of a trip with her Spanish class. When she came back and told me about it, I knew I wanted to go. Now, over 20 years later I'm doing it. This is a big deal for me. The biggest deal from a financial perspective is being in a place where I can put this trip together and afford to do it and take care of all the details myself. Super cool. This is my first out-of-the-country trip that I am doing without riding along with someone else and just following their plans. Yes!
So, this has distracted me some from this course. But not entirely!
This week's lessons are about narrowing goals so they're measurable. And how do I feel about that?
Sometimes, putting a number on a goal or dream feels strangling to me. Especially if I put a time limit on it. But when I make it measurable in my own way, it works. For example, instead of saying, "I would like to save $6000 by the end of the year," I do better to say "I would like to save 20% of my income."
The first version somehow triggers my resistance and then I start doing all these things to sabotage myself and then I would spend chunks of the money I would save throughout the year until ending up back where I am now. I know this from experience.
The second version doesn't put some out-of-reach (not really, but it seems like it) number in the distance for me to attain that makes me feel like a failure if I don't. It gives me something I can do multiple days of the week and feel successful. Maybe that's why it works better for me. It feels successful each time I do it rather than when I reach something far away.
Now, I'm not saying this is necessarily my goal, but this is the way I need to make my goals. I haven't gotten to the lesson to state my goals yet. ; )
Just to give another (very belated) shout-out to this course I'm taking. It's from DailyOM.com called A Year to Get Rich With Purpose. I love the daily emails and the gentle tune-ins to what mindsets and emotions are blocking me or driving me to what I really want. I'm 1/3 of the way through. Feels good.
I just reviewed the last five lessons all at once. I have done this once or twice in this course, but I am not taking the time to answer each question. I'm going to summarize my answers here.
The reason for this is I'M GOING TO SPAIN. Tomorrow. Wow.
Therefore, I have been focused on other things. I have been focused on one of my financial dreams or goals that is actually coming to fruition.
When I was 14 or 15 I had a friend who went to Spain as part of a trip with her Spanish class. When she came back and told me about it, I knew I wanted to go. Now, over 20 years later I'm doing it. This is a big deal for me. The biggest deal from a financial perspective is being in a place where I can put this trip together and afford to do it and take care of all the details myself. Super cool. This is my first out-of-the-country trip that I am doing without riding along with someone else and just following their plans. Yes!
So, this has distracted me some from this course. But not entirely!
This week's lessons are about narrowing goals so they're measurable. And how do I feel about that?
Sometimes, putting a number on a goal or dream feels strangling to me. Especially if I put a time limit on it. But when I make it measurable in my own way, it works. For example, instead of saying, "I would like to save $6000 by the end of the year," I do better to say "I would like to save 20% of my income."
The first version somehow triggers my resistance and then I start doing all these things to sabotage myself and then I would spend chunks of the money I would save throughout the year until ending up back where I am now. I know this from experience.
The second version doesn't put some out-of-reach (not really, but it seems like it) number in the distance for me to attain that makes me feel like a failure if I don't. It gives me something I can do multiple days of the week and feel successful. Maybe that's why it works better for me. It feels successful each time I do it rather than when I reach something far away.
Now, I'm not saying this is necessarily my goal, but this is the way I need to make my goals. I haven't gotten to the lesson to state my goals yet. ; )
Just to give another (very belated) shout-out to this course I'm taking. It's from DailyOM.com called A Year to Get Rich With Purpose. I love the daily emails and the gentle tune-ins to what mindsets and emotions are blocking me or driving me to what I really want. I'm 1/3 of the way through. Feels good.
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